If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop, for the guy you care about to leave, thus validating the fact that you are unworthy of love.
Poor self-worth is what traps us in bad relationships, what sabotages new relationships, and what causes us to feel so devastated and broken when a relationship ends.
When a girl is insecure, however, and a guy leaves, she spirals.
A woman with healthy boundaries will not lose herself in a relationship, and will not allow her identity to be entirely contingent upon how he sees her.
She will continue to maintain her own life outside of the relationship without giving up her friends, hobbies, or alone time.
They act in accordance with who they are and what they believe and don’t cater their behavior for a guy, or do things solely to keep him interested and happy.
When you have weak boundaries, you may sell yourself out in a relationship and put up with treatment that you know is objectively unacceptable.
Only insecure people secretly feel that they are unworthy and feel the need to hide this by bragging about their achievements or talking themselves up.
A woman who reveals herself gradually, carefully peeling back the layers over time, is significantly more attractive than a woman who lays it all out there.
They don’t attach their worth to what a guy thinks and, as a result, don’t feel stressed and anxious when a guy’s feelings are unclear.
Instead, they assume he likes them and are able to be present in the relationship and enjoy it without being weighed down by fears and doubts. Confident people realize if a relationship falls apart it’s because it wasn’t right, not because they did something wrong.
People with low self-esteem don’t trust their judgment, don’t trust their gut instincts, and are afraid of being wrong.