What is the Dutch men dating culture or how should you approach Dutch women?
Try to be patient, relax and don't expect your Dutch man or woman to act exactly like people back home.
While expat forums can provide some helpful advice, their dating threads are often the setting for uninhibited (and often unrepresentative) venting: "Dutch women here are rude, arrogant and unfriendly." "The only thing Dutch men have really taken to heart is 'going Dutch'." Resist the temptation and look for more balanced advice elsewhere.
Forget the sugar-coating – being down-to-earth and direct will earn a lot more points with a Dutch man or Dutch girls. Friends also usually kiss three times on the cheek in greeting; some strangers may kiss when being introduced to someone through a common friend, although a handshake is more common. It is not uncommon to split the bill on the first date – right down to the last cent's worth of what you ate – regardless of whether your're dating a Dutch man or woman.
While neither Dutch women nor Dutch men are renowned for being touchy on a first date, direct eye contact is the norm so don't be put off if someone is staring your way. This shouldn't come as a surprise considering you are in the country that gave name to the phrase 'going Dutch' (splitting a bill).
While Dutch women might like it when men do this, they do not expect it.
Such actions aren't seen as an affront to ladies but rather as a sign that Dutch men see them as equals – although some might say this is the unfortunate downside of equality when dating a Dutch man. Part of this has to do with the prevalent bike culture – have you tried biking in high heels and a mini skirt, through the rain?
It also comes down to the Dutch laid-back attitude, which tends to extend to clothes (and makeup), so you may want to take it down a notch if you're used to getting very gussied up for a date.
Don't take it personally if your date shows up in sneakers or arrives at a fancy event in jeans.
Both Dutch women and Dutch men are renowned for being straight-forward in conversation, and little social negativity is attached to asking personal questions or openly stating one's unsolicited opinion in the Netherlands.
The Dutch tend to believe it is better to be honest than mislead someone.
Some report the Dutch avoid making ‘real' connections with foreigners, making it difficult to get past the first Dutch dating hurdle and settle down.