Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.
My boyfriend was in a relationship with another girl before me.
Lately I've noticed he's been getting closer to her, almost trying to be her friend again. Every time I bring up the issue he becomes angry and defensive and it makes me worry.
He says he loves me but he doesn't want to talk about the subject.
We all need some to take stock of where we are mentally and emotionally. I do think this situation is a huge red flag in your relationship.
In the end, it’s going to be your choice whether you stay with him or not if he doesn’t change his behavior. I am not sure his feelings are over regarding his old girlfriend. It also bothers me that he is not willing to discuss it. Perhaps you are a bit insecure and any woman in his life (the past or future) could be an issue (and that is something you need to think and pray about).
You must decide before you go on the date what your limits will be.
It’s too difficult to think when passion overtakes you. You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God (Eph.
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It sounds like it may be time for a “we need to talk” talk, although I wouldn’t use those exact words.