This contradicts the stereotype that all men are focused on finding a youthful partner, as these singles indicate a preference for a partner three to six years older than themselves.Similar to their younger male counterparts, younger women have reflected this interest in older men.
But now thanks to the likes of Demi, the term has evolved to describe women usually in their late thirties, forties and fifties who are financially secure, independent and looking for a younger man to have fun with. And they're very successful." Today it's apparently "cool" to be a cougar, maybe even something to strive for.
Canadian author Valerie Gibson who wrote the book , defines a cougar as "a very sophisticated, a very attractive, a very sensually-aware woman, very much in control of her life. There is even an online cougar dating sites, cougar apparel. We don't see a lot of mainstream books and dating sites for older men dating younger women.
In a society where teeny boppers seemed to rule, it is refreshing that forty has become the new thirty, and that women are finally thought to improve with age like men do.
A common rule of thumb when it comes to dating is that it’s OK to be interested in someone who is half your age, plus seven years.
How will you feel when the novelty of the age difference wears off?
Are you okay with being "prey" or do you want a long-term relationship?
Shifting back to the older woman-younger man relationship dynamic, it has garnered a collective gasp from society.
Despite celebrities like Demi Moore and Mariah Carey marrying men who are over a decade their junior, the public still struggles to come to grips with these romances.
Some older women are either finished having children or don't want any - is that okay with you? Maybe she's just exercising her libido, and not after anything more. As in any romantic relationship, don't just assume you are on the same page - make sure that you are.
Just because Demi and Ashton or Tim and Susan made it work doesn't mean that we can say age doesn't matter. Since every person is an individual, every single relationship is different, and only the people actually in a relationship can make the call.
The success of these age-gap romantic relationships may be attributed to the vitality the younger man brings into their lives and the maturity and confidence men find in their older counterparts.