A strange person standing next to you could be equally distracting, says Helen Fisher, a consultant for dating site and senior research fellow at The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, which carries out research on sexuality and sexual health. “It makes you more vulnerable, more mysterious and ready for love.” The close-up What the picture says: “I have a nice face.” What you should realize: “It’s a bad sign if someone needs to hide in front of the camera.” The more information you get in advance, the less time is wasted for everyone concerned.People get suspicious when they see photos with faces only or with hats and shades, Fisher says, and they will wonder what happened to the rest of you.You do want to say, “Look at me, I’m social,” Lewis says.
But many online daters, like a pantomime villain, forget to look behind them.
An untidy home or something much worse could be a deal breaker, says Jeffrey Hancock, a professor in the communication and information science departments at Cornell University.
“There could be a strange poster in the background that indicates they’re racist,” he says. We’re really good at picking up visual cues.” And if you have a picture of a landscape, make sure you’re in it. ” What you should realize: “There will be three people (well, two and one dog) in this relationship.” No one wants to date your dog or cat.
They should have their own dating site, and frolicking with your pet may give people the impression that you only have eyes for each other.
The Facebook page and Tumblr blog “Humanitarians of Tinder” is devoted to Tinder users who post pictures of themselves doing aid work abroad.
One man is pictured with three topless women after what seems like a tribal dance, a woman is surrounded by small children Mother Teresa-style, while another man shows a man giving thumbs up while hunching next to an elderly woman selling odds and ends on the street.
“Your physical image says a lot about you,” Fisher says. You have to respect that billboard and do your hair the right away and wear the kind of clothes that really advertise who you are.” The dodgy backdrop What the picture says: “Look into my eyes.” What you should realize: “If you can’t keep your house clean, how will you be able to floss?
” Behold the man or woman with a majestic backdrop, surfing their way into your life on the Pacific Ocean or skiing their way into your heart in the French Alps.
“It’s really easy to embellish a photograph even without Photoshop,” Toma says.
Women are likely to use more makeup than usual — or use a photo where they’ve been professionally made up, for an event like a wedding.
“You always want to include a full body shot,” she says.