The New “Talking” Phase of Dating Kids today don’t plunge into dating without first going through the “talking to each other” phase.This means a boy and girl who feel an attraction spend time together, whether alone or in groups, then text and/or Snapchat in-between.
"Parents can be so uncomfortable with the idea of their kid becoming more grown up -- we wish our kids could stay kids," Atkins says.
"The problem with that attitude is that your kid still is a kid.
Yes, the prom as we knew it still exists, but even its drama pales in comparison to today’s boy-girl relationship issues.“It’s not your parents’ dating anymore,” concedes Robin Gurwitch, a clinical psychologist at the Duke Center for Child and Family Health.
“We don’t have the vocabulary and we don’t have the experiences to be able to help.
Parents should establish ground rules for texting members of the opposite sex and explain the importance of avoiding any form of “sexting.” Parents should also monitor their child’s text conversations and follow/friend them on any social media sites where they have accounts.
Young teens have especially fragile egos, so negative peer feedback on social media can be especially damaging.
The rest are either completely single or talking to someone.“Maybe among the younger girls it’s more important to have a boyfriend, but as we’ve gotten older, it’s just not as important,” she says.
Parents should try to stay on top of who their child is talking to or dating, and why — especially with younger teens.
These first relationships usually don’t go beyond chatting, posing for pictures later posted on social media and requests to attend coed group outings.
Most experts and parents consulted for this article say group “dates” to the mall, movies or even a friend’s house are fine as long as they’re supervised, even if it means just being in the same shopping center.
We’re learning this at the same time our children are navigating through it.”What follows is a teen dating primer to help your child — and you — forge the valley between child and young adult.