Too many cougars hit the gym obsessively, whittling their bodies down to nothing but bone. He won’t know as much about money management or interior design or even table manners as you do.His apartment might be messy and his resume might be all botched up. If you lie about having children or send them away to visit their aunt anytime your cub comes over, everybody will feel guilty.So long as you see your age as an advantage, so will your cub.
But even though their older woman-younger man relationship may be among the world's most visible, it's not that unusual anymore.
Braving "robbing the cradle" jokes, almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating younger men (defined as 10 or more years younger).
Cunningham, Ph D, a psychologist in the department of communications at the University of Louisville, tells Web MD. You can override a lot of biology in pursuit of other goals." Interestingly, Cunningham did an unpublished study of 60 women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, who were shown pictures of men aged to those decades. We should marry people within two years of our age.
"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.
This can create pain." Voltages are not a factor of age, she says.
"What you don't want," she explains, "is one partner wanting to go out, the other stay in; one willing to talk, the other wanting space (and silence to enjoy it)." Susan Winter is co-author, with Felicia Brings, of Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance.
When he asks you about your history, don’t be afraid to share.
Like a crop top or too much makeup, catty behavior instantly ages you.
Your body won’t bounce back the same; and if he wanted a party girl, he’d be with one, instead of you. The greatest thing about dating someone younger is that he has so many places to show you that you’d never know about otherwise, and visa versa. You’ve had a longer life and inevitably accomplished more than your cub.
It’s natural to reference your own history, experiences, victories etc.
According to a recent AARP poll, one-sixth of women in their 50s, in fact, prefer men in their 40s.