But then along comes the first anniversary like an enormous boulder to rub salt into the wound that is probably just beginning to heal.And as you tip into the second year, the daily grind can be even more difficult to bear –making you even more painfully aware of how much your miss your partner being around. But slowly, imperceptibly, each day will start to get a little bit easier.Some people might even begin to entertain the idea of dating again.
So when I learned that she’d rekindled an old flame and had fallen in love again, I felt relieved.
I was happy that she had found a partner and companion - someone to go on dinner and movie dates with, to take to family functions, and yes, even to enjoy physical intimacy with again.
Getting through the first year of losing your partner is a bit like a roller coaster. You might be plunged into the depths of despair at any given moment.
You may burst into tears in the supermarket when trying to work out what to cook for supper that night. Day by day, you start to get used to the practicalities of your new life as the realisation that your partner is not coming back really begins to hit home.
But other people feel the need get out there and meet anew partner. Emotionally you might still be feeling very vulnerable. An emotional rejection can plunge you back into the depths of despair.
So dating after you've been widowed is something to be treated with extreme caution.
Not everyone is so enthusiastic about one parent dating again after the other parent has died, however.
In fact, many people feel confused, disappointed, and even angry when Mom or Dad steps back into the dating scene.
You will have to struggle through many “firsts” without your partner by your side – from your first Christmas to your first birthday on your own.
“It’s when the drama is over and you face the grey mudflats of the future that the real widowhood begins...
Other WAY members can be an invaluable source of advice and support as you venture back into the dating world.