The problem is that guys know a woman’s bluff from a mile away…and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.
You might see a bigger picture – a picture of what he really needs.
I had a girlfriend who was very flirtatious by nature.
Rather than wanting him to change, the better path is to move towards understanding each other better.
Understanding each other is the basis of connection.
When you can accept him as he is, you start to show him a path towards filling that void.
When you can recognize what he “gets” from his behavior and you can truly understand him as a man, you might not take his actions personally anymore.
Some people have voids inside them and they forever try to fill them – with having other people desire them, with sex, with power, with money, etc.
In many cases, the void that people feel is caused by a feeling of separateness – a feeling that we don’t belong and aren’t acceptable.
I mean, all of his sexual needs are completely met by you, right? And all of his emotional needs are met by you, so it can’t be that he enjoys the ego boost of feeling desired by a woman…
My point in all this is that if you believe that you’re meeting all his needs, you will be blind to areas where the relationship needs to grow.
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls.