Though I respect that, I still want to find someone in a similar place of coming out.
When I step into a predominately heterosexual establishment, I feel like I have to be on guard and really careful with the people I choose to flirt with. HIV impacts everyone, no matter your sexuality, but it's still a hot button issue in the gay community, especially in dating.
People are too quick not to go on a date with someone because of their status or will refuse a second date once they find out.
When you are a gay man in your twenties, dating can be an all-around horrible experience.
Buzz Feed reached out to some of those gay twentysomethings to tell us some of their difficulties when trying to date.
On one hand, this is kind of great because you get to weed out a lot of clunkers you wouldn't want to spend time with.
On the other hand, it sucks because there's less for you to discover from spending actual, in-person time with him." —Dylan, 29 "When 'Masc4Masc' and 'Straight Acting' are no longer a thing, then a lot of our dating problems would be eliminated.
But I've learned that those romantic conventions don't work when you are trying to date a queer person.
The dynamic of two men being together IS DIFFERENT.
At least when I was a big guy, men were more interested in other aspects of me." —Erich, 24 "Gay apps usually come with some sort of sorting hat for your 'gay tribe.' It sucks that there is so much division within the gay community in that respect.
It seems each tribe comes with its own set of rules for dating.
It's become a thing to hide behind a virtual wall and become something you're not.