Jealousy, although at times destructive, is a beneficial and necessary emotion in a marriage when used in proper doses. Why does she have to see he doesn't loose interest?
Rabbi_Boteach says: Because men have very limited sexual attention spans.
This has in fact been borne out in reality, and there is another more tragic factor pulling North Korean women into China—a demand for North Korean brides among unmarried Chinese men, and a broader demand for North Korean women in the Chinese sex industry (including brothels and online sex chat rooms).
This demand is driven by a lack of marriage-aged women particularly in rural Northeast China, a result of China’s ‘one child policy’ and the migration of young Chinese women to the cities.
Rabbi_Boteach says: Men only lose interest in their wives when they are convinced that their wives are totally devoted to them.
Therefore, a wife who feels that her husband is losing interest should withdraw slightly and show great feminine independence so that their husbands have to seduce them instead of seducing strangers.
So on International Women’s Day, we salute the North Korean women who have been able to emerge as a force of progress despite being born in the most repressive country in the world, and we salute our sisters and brothers around the world who continue to believe in and support them.
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However this does not exactly play out in the demographic data for arrivals of North Korean refugees in South Korea, which shows no spike in the female to male ratio of refugees in their 20s, so it is hard to say how big of a factor this is.
Finally, anecdotally, it seems that some North Korean women may be more likely to be motivated to make the journey to South Korea after watching dramas and films that are smuggled into North Korea on USBs and Micro-SD cards.
But I see nothing wrong with a wife being possessive.