At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex.
If the truth, whoever possesses it, is more valued than the perception that you are the one who knew it first, then opposition to your thoughts and beliefs will be inoffensive no matter how offensive the other person is trying to be. You simply want to know the truth, even if you are never the place it originates.
The It’s-All-About-Me mentality is fertile soil for being frequently offended.
” Reason with yourself: “Did he really mean it the way I was just about to take it? ” You will be happier as you learn to talk yourself out of offense and internalize the sticks-and-stones-may-break-my-bones-but-words-will-never-hurt-me philosophy of communication.
” Tell yourself the person who is the potential offender has as much right to his opinion as you do to yours. I find it so fascinating that someone can have such opinions that are almost the exact opposite of mine!
I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.Unless proven otherwise (you don’t want to become someone’s dupe), assume the person in question has noble intent. It won’t hurt because your validation doesn’t come from their opinions about you. Maybe the language was clumsy, maybe even ill-advised, but assume a good heart. When identities are too closely tied to one’s opinions, and those opinions are then disagreed with, many feel like they, themselves, have been rejected, the core of who they are have been shoved away, pushed to a corner and crushed. To overcome hypersensitivity, realize that your opinions are not you. So often we jump to conclusions, assume an ill intent, create meaning to a word that then hurts and offends. And certainly, any given opinion or set of opinions are not the whole of who you are. Resist that urge and delay judgment until the conversation has run its course. So just let it be, shrug and let it slide off your back. Furthermore, a recent study seems to back up this conclusion.