He moved to Manhattan eight years ago, hopping around from Fi Di to Murray Hill to the Hoboken, and finally back to Fi Di when it was time to move out from living with his best bro and get his own place.
Eased by the romantic evening he had planned and confident he’d want to be exclusive I opened that can of worms and to my surprise, a serious relationship was not on his mind now or in any foreseeable future.
Maybe I’m a serial monogamist who has it twisted, but in my opinion, you date to find out who you might want to spend the rest of your life with.
He took me to an incredible restaurant overlooking the Hudson River and took me to dessert at a spot near his apartment.
It was a perfect date, but then we found ourselves sitting on his patio with the elephant in the room pressuring me to start that conversation.
She graduated from Vanderbilt last year and she is SO friggin’ excited to be living on her own…in Manhattan…totally for the first time! She landed a job as an Executive Assistant at Bravo. She makes, like, no money, but mom and dad will cover her rent (okay, and Soul Cycle classes) for at least the next year.
Plus, her building has so many amenities, even though she has to live in a flex room in an apartment with 3 other girls. I always laugh when guys in NYC say, "Man, why are women so on guard all the time? So do 12 construction workers on my way home and some weird asshole on the subway and Weird Barry who is always sitting outside my building. Sometimes it's just totally out-of-the-blue inappropriate touching, sometimes it's someone yelling at a waitress out of nowhere to the point where we're truly terrified, but the point is, between that and the street harassment, we might be a little on edge.3.New Yorkers think they've seen it all, but with so many new restaurants and shows and weirdo tourist attractions popping up all the time, there's no way that's true. There are, like, 14 food delivery apps for a reason.Although in the South where I’m from that seems to be a common perspective, NYC is a whole different animal.I’ve done some dating both organically and online since breaking up with my last long term boyfriend and I’ve noticed a trend of dating as a hobby for most of my suitors. If dating in NYC is a sport, it’s definitely not a team sport like soccer or hockey, but a solo sport like golf or figure skating.If you live in the Bronx and I don't, you are not my soul mate. And if you are, I'm sorry but that commute is no fucking joke and I simply cannot. One group text is sent and we're all yours (JK, JK). Our city is pretty compact, so even though it might sound nuts to be like, "I can't go to the East Village," that's actually like saying, "I don't love going near Exit 19B" on the highway in most other cities, so it's pretty reasonable. We're like that Eminem song: You only get one shot. We live in a city of go-getters and we most likely are one ourselves, so you better be able to make a plan. It'll easily take me 30 to 45 minutes to get there, and that's if all the trains haven't mysteriously shut down because of construction no one believes will actually ever fix anything, but that's a whole other thing. Which means we probably don't want to just "come over and hang out" for the majority of our first few dates.13.