The goal, according to this advice, is to trick the other person by abandoning your true self and becoming what is most attractive to that person.
Healthy relationships between two confident partners don’t need to rely on ploys like this: Because that’s what it is: a ploy. Do you really want to be in a relationship where your partner does that to you?
One of the sadder trends in dating is the deterioration of commitment.
For red pillers, this is the bitter “truth” of dating reality.
A lot of misguided advice stems from this way of thinking, but the worst has to be the idea of negging, which is colloquially defined as “the technique of using a light insult wrapped in the package of a complement” in order to “gain and maintain the attention of women”.
As we all know, building a relationship on deception is the perfect recipe for romantic success.
(Not.)What’s truly sad about heeding this advice is that you’re passively admitting that you are so repulsive or undesirable that the only way you’d ever be able to start a relationship with someone is by shelving yourself, and that the only way you could ever initiate contact with someone is by “infiltrating” them.
It’s meant to help people who so dread rejection that they never initiate relationships. But as always this piece of advice can be taken too far, and it can prove to be highly detrimental — even harmful — when it veers off course. It’s not healthy to drown in anxiety and fear, but swinging to the opposite end isn’t any better.
You can care too much and you can care not at all, but the best balance is right in the middle.
Spend just a few minutes in red pill culture and you’ll immediately smell the stench of true misogyny.
To them, women are toys and if you can push their buttons in the right order at the right time, they’ll sleep with you. That’s enough proof to declare this tactic as absolutely terrible, isn’t it?
You may be blind to certain details that change the entire context of your relationship struggles. an abusive partner), Internet dating advisors who suggest a break-up or divorce should be ignored.